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Post by mthrasher138 on Apr 26, 2014 16:06:52 GMT -5
My husband and I are getting a divorce. It's been a long time coming, but I'm not handling the stress of it very well. (i.e. not sleeping and wanting to eat unhealthy "comfort food"). I'm trying not to freak out by making my plans and trying to keep in mind that things are going to be a whole lot better. What are some things that you do to handle extremely stressful situations?
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Post by saravandy on Apr 26, 2014 16:45:01 GMT -5
Meditation and prayer works best for me. Several times a day, as well as focused deep breathing. So sorry.
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Post by ccobine on Apr 26, 2014 17:01:53 GMT -5
Taking brisk walks help me tremendously.
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Post by frecs on Apr 26, 2014 17:08:18 GMT -5
Self-nurture! Lots of rest, leisurely walks in a nice park, give yourself a manicure so you can't eat everything in the refrigerator, give yourself a pedicure so you can't walk to the refrigerator to eat everything in the refrigerator, a long soak in an epsom salts bath, prayer, prayer, and anything fun that does not include eating...
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Post by abtacha on Apr 27, 2014 7:52:32 GMT -5
When I'm stressing about a certain situation most of the time it's the worrying about what will happen that stresses me most. So I try to imagine the worst outcome possible and decide what I would do and how I would handle that situation. For example, in July we're going to move to the States (all our stuff will be shipped before but that's when I fly with my daughters 8 and 3) and we'll have to fly first for eight and than for three hours. The oldest was on a plane when she was a baby but other than that they're not accustomed to flying. Anyways, when I get stressed out about that trip I imagine the worst thing or things that could happen, like both of them throwing up, both of them running around the airplane like crazy people, our flight being delayed and so on. Then I think about what I would/could do when something like that happens and if/how I can prepare myself for those situations. For example, pack enough backup clothes for accidents, toys and snacks to distract them and if all else fails sleeping pills for me... Just kidding, kinda So, long story short, if distracting yourself from your stress and worry doesn't work. "Go into" your stressors and worries and give yourself the feeling of being prepared for whatever happens.
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Post by salixisme on Apr 28, 2014 23:02:04 GMT -5
Breathe, meditate, do yoga. Take time for yourself - go for long walks and just "be".
And make sure you eat well - take care of yourself.
Also take time to spend quality time with friends and family - those who love you.
Laugh and have fun - and if you don't feel particually happy, try the "fake it until you make it" approach. Sometimes just having a big smile and laughing will make you feel better even when you are not happy.
And don't forget to grieve for your past relationship. That is also vital to the healing process. It IS OK for you to cry...
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Post by suscq on May 7, 2014 7:55:50 GMT -5
Never underestimate the power of hitting things ;-). The batting cages got me through my divorce. It was a great way to get out pent up stress, and the physical exertion helped me sleep better.
Another option is a golf driving range. Or you can buy whiffle ball style practice golf balls that won't go far; pair them with a thrift store golf club and you have a cheap and easy stress buster you can use in your yard.
I think the other posts have great ideas to, especially to establish a pattern of good stress management, but every now and ten, you just need to do something to burn off all that anxiety and nervous energy.
Mom to 2 girls: E (8/6/09) and M (5/20/11)
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Post by frecs on May 7, 2014 8:31:45 GMT -5
Never underestimate the power of hitting things ;-). The batting cages got me through my divorce. It was a great way to get out pent up stress, and the physical exertion helped me sleep better. Another option is a golf driving range. Or you can buy whiffle ball style practice golf balls that won't go far; pair them with a thrift store golf club and you have a cheap and easy stress buster you can use in your yard. I think the other posts have great ideas to, especially to establish a pattern of good stress management, but every now and ten, you just need to do something to burn off all that anxiety and nervous energy. Mom to 2 girls: E (8/6/09) and M (5/20/11) Beating a mattress works, also! Just, don't punch a wall...that hurts! A good pillow fight also works...and will get you laughing too which is a double score. Throwing things...oh, yeah, women used to throw things a lot but then we got all "gotta act our age" about things -- get you some old dishes at the thrift store and break them! (Then, make a mosaic table out of the broken pieces.)
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Post by pixelfrau on May 11, 2014 2:04:25 GMT -5
Yoga, meditation and walking. And sometimes, beating the crap out of a punching bag to get all the aggression out. If you're new to meditation, you might like Susan Piver's newsletter. She sends out 2 guided meditation videos each week. I find these a lot easier than sitting on my own trying to meditate by myself. susanpiver.com/subscribe/participate/
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Post by mthrasher138 on May 18, 2014 2:34:22 GMT -5
Yoga, meditation, batting cages, and breaking dishes to make a mosaic. I will try them all. Thank you ladies for the wonderful suggestions!
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Post by mthrasher138 on May 18, 2014 2:40:13 GMT -5
Yoga, meditation and walking. And sometimes, beating the crap out of a punching bag to get all the aggression out. If you're new to meditation, you might like Susan Piver's newsletter. She sends out 2 guided meditation videos each week. I find these a lot easier than sitting on my own trying to meditate by myself. susanpiver.com/subscribe/participate/Thank you for the link! I find it extremely hard to meditate by myself. Can't wait to try it!
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Post by mariamcc on May 23, 2014 20:49:18 GMT -5
Kick boxing
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Post by paleochic on Jun 5, 2014 14:16:30 GMT -5
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Post by kezza on Jun 13, 2014 18:19:15 GMT -5
I can imagine the stress of the unknown, surrounding your divorce. I have found hypnotherapy and seeing a counselling psychologist helpful also, in times of increased stress. Good luck with it all
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Post by cavegirlaligned on Jun 26, 2014 16:34:50 GMT -5
Be good to yourself! You deserve it! Do the best you can and let go of what you can.
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